Monday, June 19, 2006

return of the Dating Nazi

ckhnat 2006

Sigh … there comes a time when every superhero has to reach back into the closet and dust off and iron their superhero outfit. Either the city has slumped back into a decadent state of affairs or another city is pleading for your assistance. It’s a hard life.

More and more I’m convinced that most of the dating problems in typical youth groups in churches across Christendom is more a discipleship issue than anything else. Mark Driscoll in his sermon about the Samaritan woman at the well makes an interesting insight. He states that the woman worshipped men! Her time, actions, thoughts, everything were consumed with men. Of course, it’s all speculative, but isn’t that what so many teenage girls (and single women) are consumed with.

The sufficiency of Christ is incomprehensible to them.

6 comments:

CraigS said...

I think that's a great insight CK. I agree that the solution is better discipleship of our girls (and the guys too)...

ckhnat said...

I'll leave that to you, Craig. I don't disciple guys ... although, I have a number of guy-pals that wouldn't mind discipling women ...

Priscilla said...

I agree with Mark Driscoll. It's a common problem. I once fell prey to it myself. The Lord had to teach me some very tough lessons...which I won't go into detail about here. But suffice it to say the power of God is very real...and He can bring you to your knees very quickly. When I was 21...I was brought to me knees and that is when I surrendered myself to Christ. Oh...I had been saved already by then...but this time Christ was more than my savior...He became Lord. I decided then and there that I didn't want to ever date again until the Lord chose the guy...and I would work on putting Christ on the throne of my life...not constantly look to put a man there.

So...I kissed dating good bye before the book was written!

mike said...

arrrh yes someone who has read "The Book" takes me back...

Anonymous said...

Wouldn't it be great if men and women could learn to be consumed by Christ's love and utterly at peace with that as individuals -- without isolating themselves from other mere mortals? I've always wondered if perhaps the problem has to do with the need for teens/singles (and many marrieds) to understand the difference in purpose between the relationships we have with each other and the relationship we should have with our Lord. The two are not interchangeable things, and though they complement one another, they shouldn't be confused.

Ruth said...

I don't think that young girls are consumed with men, so much as consumed with feeling loved. I think there's a slight difference. Sure, they want to be loved by a man, but it is like an obsessive security blanket - makes them somehow more 'normal' to have a boyfriend, gives them a gooey feeling to have someone hold their hand etc...

Hollywood has a lot to answer for there too - we let it influence our thinking more than we are willing to admit.....

You're right though, better discipleship is a key answer - and better knowing that God loves them more than any man ever could. (sorry - I don't mean to put down men there - I'm quite fond of men myself - esp AB, but they're not God).