Sunday, February 12, 2006
she's not your girlfriend ... what is she?
She’s not your girlfriend. But she is your friend.
She’s not your mom. But she is your sister in Christ.
She’s not a seat-filler. She’s got her own seat to fill.
She’s not your best friend. You’ve already got one.
She’s not your conscience. You’ve got one of those, too.
She’s not your day planner. Your aunt gave you one of those for Christmas.
She’s not your Jeannie in a Bottle. She’s a vulnerable human being who makes mistakes and likes to feel appreciated.
She’s not a damsel-in-distress. She’s a young woman who out of necessity has become independent.
… Yet she longs for someone to lead,
someone with a plan,
someone who desires her,
someone who appreciates her,
someone to run life’s race with,
someone to help as Eve was created to be the helper,
someone who’s not always right but she’d still abide by his decisions because he is her leader,
someone who will drive her crazy with his bad habits and she will drive him crazy with hers but they will be used of God to sanctify each other,
someone who will show her how the Church ought to relate to Christ by treating her like Christ treats the Church,
someone … she needs.
She’s not your girlfriend … What is she?
If she’s your friend, be honest.
If she’s your sister in Christ, be upright and don’t take her for granted.
If you use her to fill that empty spot in your life while waiting for that special someone to come along, it’s not fair to her.
If you’ve been treating her like a best friend, it’s not her place to fill.
If you’ve been depending on her to be your conscience, she can’t. She struggles with her own.
If you expect her to fill your schedule, it’s a waste of your time and hers.
If you have treated her like a Jeannie in a Bottle, she is tired and worn and you need to set her free.
If you expect her to play the damsel-in-distress, SLAY THE DRAGON AND SWEEP HER OFF HER FEET!!!
(picture from this weekend's Babble of the Sexes: Lorie, Michael, Hayley, Christine)