Me, Beth, Dolly, Karen
I don't think so ... at least not the traditional, formal sort.
LOL! So, Mike and I both attended weddings this past weekend. Too bad it wasn't the same one. I was in my best friend's wedding ... my first time ever as a bride's maid ... and probably my last. And Mike attended an old schoolmate's wedding (his brother Dave was in the groom's party).
Hmm ... what are some things one can do to take care of some of the really un-necessary headaches? Now I have been to all of maybe FIVE weddings in my lifetime ... but I'm constantly struck by the absurd pomp and circumstance ... it all seems so un-necessarily formal.
DON'T GET ME WRONG! Dolly's wedding was fabulous. She'll have gorgeous memories to cherish for a lifetime. And I got to be a bridesmaid! Woo Hoot!
But I imagine weddings are personal preferences. So why do so many women conform to the same ol' equations?
But then again ... I've never been one who could be stuffed in a "box" and categorized and conform to the "way things *ought* to be".
(side note) Karen and I made our dresses and Dolly made Beth's. We were quite the fashion designers in college!
(side note 2) I wasn't going to wear a necklace. Normally don't when I'm wearing such finery. I try to let the dress speak for itself. But I thought the professional pictures might be a little off if there wasn't SOMETHING around my neck. So I snagged one of the ribbons decorating one of the gift baskets and tied it around my neck. The bow kept slipping towards the center and at one point in between shots Dolly motioned that my neckribbon was not off-center any more.
young, attractive, trendy photographer: (slight wink) Are you trying to cover something up?
me: Nah, I just want to keep the bow on the side. I think it looks better that way.
yatp: Ah, I thought maybe you were covering a hickie.
me: ROFL!!! Wouldn't THAT be funny! No, hardly. My boyfriend is in Australia!
(side note 3) I ALWAYS told Dolly that she'd get married before I would.
(side note 4) The girls told me about some story that circulated around college where some chick got married ... her bridesmaids were wearing white shirts, khaki skirts, and held a sheet in front of the bride as she walked down the aisle ... what the?!! Maybe that's too informal ... and just plain WEIRD!!!
(side note 5) All of us look fabulous in green. The wedding was like the return of the "green girls". A time when Karen, Dolly, and I all went to an fancy-shmancy organ concert dressed in green carrying *fake* lilies ... there may have been a little horseplay and whacking of flowers stems along the way ... you can never take us too seriously.