Tuesday, July 31, 2007

married for one month, part 7

fional asked:

Do you think it's worth waiting til you're married to have sex?


Christine (smells) responds:

Yes.

Sex has become a wonderful complement to our relationship. The level of intimacy we share matches our commitment to each other.

Is it the above all, end all? No.

Is it marvelous? Yes.

But our marriage is built on love for Jesus Christ and of course communication.

To have waited this long to express that aspect of our love was extremely worthwhile. We have no guilt. We can enjoy each other fully without embarrassment or shame.

Mike adds his two cents worth...
Sex is really good inside of marriage. People and many christians get sold rubbish that they are missing out if they don't have sex before marriage. Speaking from my experience this view is bollocks. I'm glad I waited and if you are waiting too good for you. Don't let people rubbish you for being a virgin. "I have sex with my wife thankyou and it's da bomb."

13 comments:

ckjolly said...

Mike hijacked my blog and made some edits.

mike said...

Ok so I wrote the bit about you smelling...

Erica said...

Hee hee you two - I thought that the "smells" bit must have been "American " for "sniffs"!

Erica said...

No wait - inserting "sniffs" doesn't make sense now I re-read it! Great work on all the answers Christine :)

One Salient Oversight said...

The fact that you said "Bollocks" in a post about sex is hilarious.

Jonny said...

Girls smell, I know that much.

mike said...

Christine and I have very different writing styles... as you can see.

Alan said...

I just love Ericas comment '"American" for..'
you are never going to hear the end of things like this Christine..

Laura said...

Mike just said "da bomb." The chasers are going to come and give him an "improper use of ebonics" citation.

gina said...

My husband and I went to a very "fundamental" (in the worst sense of the word) Bible college where we had a course on music and the prof went on and on about how rock music was just like sex. One of our friends leaned over and whispered, "if that's true, I'm going to be really disappointed." He's happily married now and I think has come to a different conclusion on the matter.

ckjolly said...

lol ... did we go to the same Bible College?

Anonymous said...

I wish I'd waited.

fional said...

Thanks for your response guys.

"People and many christians get sold rubbish that they are missing out if they don't have sex before marriage." I like the way you phrased this - you're right, I think that often even the Christians who know waiting for marriage is the right thing and that it will be good, even these Christians still have a feeling that they're 'missing out'. I think we need to take care to talk about the *goodness* and loveliness and fulfillingness of God's commands, as well as just saying they should be obeyed. Cos sometimes that's just not enough, especially if you're a new or weak Christian.

"We have no guilt. We can enjoy each other fully without embarrassment or shame." This, too, struck a chord with me. It's a bit of an unsettling and unfulfilling thing to go against your conscience - particularly when it's right.